Some children use tantrums and screaming as ways to get what they want, put pressure on their parents, or to protest against something they don’t like. This behavior may become as part of the child’s daily interaction style, specifically children below the age of five.
The key for addressing temper tantrums ultimately rests with the parents, who should act as role models for their child. By remaining calm and polite while speaking to your child in a serious manner, explain to your child that anger will not solve the problem.
When your child is angry, stop arguing and putting pressure on him/her. It is preferable to remain calm and quiet for a few seconds and embrace your child so that they won’t hurt themselves or others around them. After that, give them alternative options close to what they have rejected or insisted on obtaining.
Some children may shy away from anger if they are ignored, while others may resort to crying or wanting to be alone. After that, they most likely return to speak to their parents. After several occurrences, parents should be more aware of how to properly deal with the child’s personality.
The child should be encouraged to abandon tantrums as a protesting technique if he/she knows that their demands are not going to be met this way. Therefore, stand your ground and stick to your opinion. Do not surrender because of their screaming, and do not feel embarrassed if your child gets angry in front of people or in public places.
After your child’s tantrum ends, speak with your child quietly about the ways of expressing their needs in the future. Tell your child that you love him/her, and you like to see him/her feels comfortable and happy. Children are emotional beings who are very likely to calm down immediately because of a kiss, a hug, or a gift for good behavior.
Always give your children time to make mistakes, learn from them, and modify their future behavior.